Relationship Alchemy

We all desire happy, healthy, harmonious relationships in our lives. What can we do to create that? And when we are faced with challenging dynamics, what how can we alchemize them to shift the dynamic?

Relationships occupy a big space within our lives. We all have relationships of various types, whether they be friends, family, co-workers, intimate partners, acquaintances, or otherwise. We spend a lot of time thinking about the various dynamics that arise in those relationships. Sometimes those dynamics leave us in a state of elation, love, gratitude, and feeling good. Other times, those dynamics drag us down into drama, stress, negative emotions, conflicts, and not-so-pleasant feelings.

These relationship dynamics can be the greatest catalysts for growth in our lives. Life is all about relationship! We exist in relationship to life and to all the variety of things that surround us in this life. In particular, our relationships with others can help us understand ourselves on deeper levels. By understanding the underlying dynamics of what I call ‘relationship alchemy’, that is how we can gain greater mastery in this aspect of our lives.

Relationships give us many opportunities to see where we still need to work on ourselves, because people are like mirrors for us to see ourselves! Unfortunately, the mirror can be difficult to face at times. Often, rather than facing our own shortcomings, we may be inclined to project them onto others. However, imagine what would be possible if we began seeing others as reflections of ourselves. When we stop pointing the finger “out there” and start looking “in here” it then gives us the power and freedom to create our dream relationships. When we begin to look within, as we relate to the world, that is when our relationships become powerful catalysts for healing and transformation in our lives.

“Understanding the alchemy of relationships is about helping us come together with others in such a way that we can co-create something better than what we can do on our own. It’s about finding synergy, even amidst tension and differences of opinion.”

Relationship alchemy is all about realizing that the tension that naturally occurs in many relationships provides us with an opportunity to harmonize the differences for mutual growth rather than run from the conflict. It is through harnessing the differences in energies that we are able to accelerate progression as individuals and as a society.

What do I mean by the word “Alchemy”? Alchemy is the epitome of integrating science, metaphysics, and consciousness all together! Most of our modern day sciences were developed out of the ancient traditions of alchemy. Modern science has reduced the scientific approach to a purely materialistic one. But in its original form, the science of alchemy was intimately connected to the philosophies of Hermeticism, mythology, and spirituality. And it had everything to do with transformation, purification, raising vibration, and harnessing the tension of opposites to bring them into a higher form of harmony and synergy.

We can better understand ourselves and our relationships to each other in a more holistic framework by using alchemical principles. Through applying this ancient art and science it reveals a method for accelerating transformation and harmonizing energies to create a more perfected state of being.

The alchemical process is driven by interaction or sometimes tension that arises between different things. We’ve all heard the expression “opposites attract” in regards to relationships. Well the same applies in alchemy. It is the differences that create the chemistry for transformation.

“With relationship alchemy it’s about bringing together different people to create something beyond what any of us can create on our own.”

At the heart of the process of creation, all manifestation is directed by the interplay of masculine and feminine energies. The 7th Hermetic Principle says that “Gender is in everything; everything has its masculine and feminine principles. Gender manifests on all planes.” Relationship Alchemy allows us to consciously bring together the masculine and feminine energies to co-create! Each person has a mix of both masculine and feminine energies in different proportions, regardless of our biological gender. Although, we are each pre-dispositioned to be dominant in one of these energies more than the other.

We typically want to have “good chemistry” with the people in our lives. Whether they are friends, colleagues, teammates, family members, or romantic partners. The ability to harness our own inner masculine and feminine energies and become more self-aware will directly influence the quality of our relationships. We are not looking for people that mirror us exactly. Rather we are looking for relationships with people whose energetic make-up complements our own. We are looking for compatibility and synergy.